Look at the mirror. Who do you see? Of course,
it is you. Is that person the one you ought to be? Why or why not? What are the
things that you have done to become the kind of person you are right now? Are
you happy with yourself now? Or is there something that you want to change with
yourself? Even when you were a child, you have so many dreams in life. You have
dreamt of becoming a doctor, nurse, teacher, lawyer, or engineer– name it all.
You have so many plans in life; well this is because you want something in your
life– and that is success. Who wouldn’t want to be successful, right?
Achieving success is not a piece of cake, well
for some rich persons it is. However, you have to take some actions for you to
get what you are dreaming of. With that, you create plans, things that will
guide you for you to become the person you wanted to be right from the start.
Unfortunately, some unexpected events happen that may lead you to change the
plans that you have created. You have been into a situation where you have to
choose among different paths. You have also been into a situation wherein you
chose the wrong road and you went back from the start to take another path. The
question is what are the things that you can do to avoid yourself from starting
all over again repeatedly? What actions should you take to make things right,
to be who really want, to become a better person? Let Mas Sajady answer your problem.
Who am I?
Have you asked yourself with this question, “Who
am I?” Did you find an answer? If someone asks you that question to you right
now, do you think you are able to answer? That question seems so simple and
easy to answer but if you will stop for a moment and think of it, it is not. It
is not just telling what your appearance is or identifying what your likes and
dislikes are. It is a question that only you can answer. It is a matter of
realizing your self-worth and knowing your purpose. Determining what kind of
person are you is just only one of the steps that you should take for you to
become a better person. Discovering who you are is a form of self-assessment.
Are you satisfied with your life now? Answering
this is a must. This is because it will determine whether you have to change
the course in your life or just continue what you have started. But before you
take into consideration regarding whether you have to take another path or not,
first, you have know what makes you unhappy.
10 Things
that Block Your Satisfaction
Happiness is what you want right from the start.
You do your best efforts to achieve this. Unfortunately, there are many things
that hinder you from being happy. It is like there is a great wall blocking
your satisfaction. To overcome these obstacles, you have to be aware of what
you are facing. Below are the common things that take away your happiness.
1. Pessimistic
views
How could you attain happiness if you always
look the glass as half-empty? How could you be successful if right from the
start, you doubt yourself and your capabilities? Pessimistic views can ruin
your happiness. Avoid over thinking. Smile more and believe that you can make
it through each day. Allow happiness to flow in your body by thinking of happy
thoughts.
2. Unwanted
thoughts
When you are stressed in life, you cannot stop
yourself from thinking too much. Many thoughts are running into your mind and
sometimes, these are bad thoughts which cause you to feel sad and to change
your mood. To get rid of those unwanted thoughts, you have to calm and free
your mind. How can you do that? It is through meditation. Continue reading this
article to find out more.
3. Poor
relationships
Would you be happy if you are not in good terms
with your parents, siblings, or friends? Absolutely not. Poor relationships can
cause depression to some. Seeing your parents quarrel or involving yourself in
fights can affect your behavior and how you perceive life. For you to be happy,
you have to build strong relationships with your loved ones. Communicate more
often with them and don’t be afraid to express how you feel about them.
4. Having
difficulties with decision-making
Life is a matter of choices. Even when you wake
up, you have to decide what you have to do first. There are some circumstances
that you experience difficulties in making decisions. You are afraid of the
possible consequences that you might suffer once you have picked the wrong
choice. Sometimes, you suffer because of bad choices. This is why having many
choices is frustrating for you. The action that you should take to solve this
problem is to weigh down each choice. List down the possible consequences for
each and know which is the most advantageous.
5. Keeping
your emotions
You experience different emotions depending on
the events that take place in your life. Due to some circumstances, you feel
angry even if you don’t want it to be. Because you don’t want to hurt other
people, you keep it to yourself. You hold your grudges. When you do this, you
are keeping the negative energy with you– making you unhappy. What you have to
do is to let go of your bitterness and all the negativities in you. This does
not mean that you have to fight those who have hurt you but you just have to
let go of your stress. There are many things can take away your extreme
emotions. You just have to discover it.
6. Too much
control
Sometimes, you are unhappy because you don’t do
what you want. You control your actions too much. You are afraid of getting
mistakes so you are too much conscious of your actions. Instead of controlling
too much, let go and do what you want but of course, be mindful if what you are
doing is right. Remember that things cannot happen just what you have planned.
7. Ignoring
opportunities
Opportunity knocks only once as they say so if
you let an opportunity pass you, there is a little probability that it will come
to your way again. However, you believe that there are many opportunities out
there so you take for granted every chance that is given to you. Well, you
should not. Never miss an opportunity. Who knows, it is the one for you.
8. Comparing
yourself to others
Success cannot be measured. This is why you
should not compare yourself to others. You are not aware what they have
undergone just to be in the place where they are right now. You, too, have
suffered and sacrificed many things just to be where you are right now. You are
different. You are unique. So don’t underestimate your capabilities because
being successful depends on what actions you are going to take. Success is
within your hands.
9. Eating
unhealthy foods
Eating unhealthy foods is associated with
stress. When you feel bad, most of the time, you tend to eat your comfort foods
which include burgers, pizza, ice cream and other that can make you fat. Having
a poor diet can make you feel more depressed because according to some studies,
it reinforces your chronic impatience. To be happy, eat healthy foods. Having a
balance diet can make you feel glow inside that can be reflected outside.
10. Engaging
too much time with social media
Do you have a Facebook account? How about
Twitter? Instagram? Snapchat? LinkedIn? This is because if you have these and
more than these, then you are really a tech-savvy. Using social media is not
bad but consuming too much of your time with these applications is not a good
idea. This is because social media is associated with depression. Some people
seek for attention so they engage themselves with these apps. Not getting
“likes” for the pictures you have posted or not receiving messages from your
loved ones can make you feel bad and unwanted. Irresponsible use of social
media can ruin relationships because it sparks jealousy and suspicion by
accepting friend requests or chatting with others. To avoid this issue, you
should just allot little time using these apps. Don’t get too much hooked with
social media. Have more time with your family and friends.
Signs that
You Have to Choose another Path
After knowing the things that make you unhappy,
what should be your next move? Of course, you have to take actions on how to
avoid these things to make satisfaction within your reach. But to achieve
optimal happiness, maybe you might consider taking another course. But how
can you determine whether you will have to follow the other road or not? Here
are the signs:
● You only
do your everyday routine. Eat, work,
sleep, and repeat. All you do is your everyday routine. You don’t have
challenging tasks anymore. You don’t have time to do your hobbies before. You
are just like a robot. You do things like you are following a script.
● You don’t
have the motivation. Your energy is
low and most of the time, you feel numb. You don’t have the drive to make it
through the day. You’ve already lost the passion inside you.
● You are
not happy anymore with your partner. Yes,
it is hard to admit to your partner that you are not happy anymore because
you’ve stayed for years. However, pretending that you are still satisfied with
your relationship can cause misery to you. It is better to tell your partner
that you have to separate your ways because it is the right thing to do. Maybe,
your lover is not the one for you.
● You
surround yourself with toxic people. The
people who encircle you have a great impact in your life. They are great
influencers. Sometimes, you consider them when you create decisions. It is not
bad to build friendships but if you think that they are just a bad influence to
you, never be afraid to search for another circle of friends that can inspire
and support you to achieve better.
● You cannot
move on with the past. You have
many “what ifs” in life. You always dwell with the past. Just think of it, how
can move forward if you still carry the baggage that your past life has given
you? Remove your emotional burden and cherish your present moments.
● You don’t
take actions. You have many
wants in life and you want to achieve all of those things. However, you just
dream for it and just keep telling your plans. You don’t take the steps that
you should do to reach for your desires. Remember, you cannot just open your
eyes and be successful instantly. You have to work for it.
Steps in
Becoming a Better Person
Have you already made up your mind? Are you
ready to shift another course? Are you ready to see what is waiting for you at
the end of the road that you will take? If your answer is yes, then you are now
ready to undergo transformation. You are now ready to become a better person.
Follow these steps by MasSajady and transform yourself into the kind of person you wanted to be.
1. Tell
yourself compliments. “Good morning
beautiful creature!” Tell this every time you wake up in the morning. Letting
positive vibes surround you is a good start to make your day a happy one.
2. Don’t be
afraid to express yourself. Improve
your relationships with others by having a good communication with them. Never
be afraid of telling them how you feel. Of course, you have to be careful with
your words especially if you are angry.
3. Always
forgive. No matter how much others
have hurt you, forgive them. Don’t let anger eat you. Don’t pile up your anger
because if you do, you will burst.
4. Be
yourself. Sometimes, you do things
just to please others. Don’t. Do things that can make you happy and not what
can make others happy. Even if their happiness is your happiness, still, do
things that please you the most.
5. Set your
goals. Know what you want in
life. List them according to your priorities. Focus on the things that you
really want to achieve. If you already know your goals, it would be easy for
you to take actions.
6. Believe in
yourself. Never doubt yourself. If
others can do it, you can also do it. Believe in everything that you can do.
7. Be a
leader and a follower. Isn’t it
good to lead people and be a role model to them? But remember, to be a good
leader, you also have to be a good follower.
8. Explore
your capabilities. Never settle
on the things that you can do. Develop your skills and discover your talents.
Engage yourself in activities that can hone your potentials. In this way, you
don’t have to follow your everyday routine anymore.
9. Be
optimistic. Positive
thoughts attract positive things. Always look at the glass as half-full. There
is always a bright side in everything.
10. Meditate
daily. This is the most
life-changing step that you could take if you want to become a better person. Meditation
has many benefits and one of it is that it helps you transform your life. It
helps you clear your mind and get rid all of your negativities in life.
If you want to change
the world you are living, you have to start the change within yourself.
Change yourself for you to become better, not to please others. Be the person
you wanted to be and don’t be afraid to show the world what you can do.
